As women we go through 3 main cycles in our life; maiden years, mother years and matriarch years. All these cycles teach us so much about ourselves. Now gentlemen, you don’t get off scot free because you also have your cycles; playboy, father and patriarch years. Sound familiar?
Our maiden and playboy years are a coming of age. They are the ‘think we know everything’ years and the world revolves around us cycle. It is the absolute beauty of youth and naivety in its purest form. We reach this cycle in our late teens around about 18 years old and continues until our late twenties. The maiden and playboy cycles are the ‘me’ years full of fun, frivolity, discovery and not much responsibility. We discover ourselves through relationships, levels of crazy fun, superficial beauty and the ‘who cares’ energy. These years cannot last forever or we would all suffer from burn out. Even the toughest of maidens or playboys will one day move into mother and father cycles, it is all in the learning and timing. It is important is to shed our old skin, to leave behind this cycle embracing the next one. After all, this is the youth cycle and they really do look so much better doing it. Revisiting this cycle is fun especially when we have the energy but when children come along, it may become a rare experience.
Moving into the mother and father years can be a difficult transition for some. It is no longer about the me, but now a larger ‘we.’ This is the start of responsibility and partnerships, where we select a partner to travel through life with and start a family. For anyone who has children I don’t need to tell you about the change it brings to your life, so lets just call it the selfless times. I am aware many of you may not have children however, you will still naturally move through these cycles giving birth to many other life events. Being a mother or father and watching your child grow, is such a blessed experience. These beautiful little bundles of joy become our greatest teachers. Happening in our early thirties to late forties, issues can arise when there is trouble letting go of our maiden/playboy cycle, it can manifest into a midlife crisis. So the sooner we embrace our mother/father energy, the better. This cycle lasts a lifetime and shows us the true meaning of ‘we’ energy.
Embracing the matriarch and patriarch years happens around our fifties. As I am not fully fledged into this cycle yet, I can only observe what happens and I like what I see. The we becomes ‘us’ and legacy comes into play. It moves into a collective oneness where giving back and investing in the future becomes priority. The apron strings are cut and grandchildren emerge. Suddenly the responsibility is lifted and replaced with a lighter more fun approach. The wisdom of half a century is put into practise with such ease and grace, as the former mother and father years are upgraded. Age now equates to life experience and what we have filled our lives with, will determine the outcome and reaction to these years. The wonderful thing about this cycle, is the simple fact that each and every matriarch and patriarch has done it all before. There is vast knowledge and an opportunity to share it with those who are clever enough to listen.
Whichever life cycle we are currently living, learning, growth and newness will be offered to us. There is a wealth of wonderfulness rich with teachings, all we need to do is surrender to the flow and receive the gift of living.
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